Let's Talk Synastry For A Sec!

Let's Talk Synastry for a Hot Sec!

While Venus is still in Rx I’m noticing a theme when it comes to synastry readings that I have done for myself and others. Venus square, opposition, and/or quincunx Moon … this is a very common placement within a synastry chart in general and what I have learned it that is manifest as this: On a PHYSICAL level, the MOON person comes into the union with a bit more baggage. It could be that the person still lives with their family and has a fucked up home life, or the MOON person already has kids that they are bringing to the union, Maybe the Moon person just went thru a divorce or is going thru a divorce, maybe a custody battle with the kids, and/or etc … you get the drift. There could be a host of emotional baggage pertaining to the person’s past that the VENUS person will have to “look past” in order to love you. Or the Venus person will find themselves having to help you sort thru that shit in order to deal with you. Now, depending on how intense the aspect is and depending on the signs of the energy that’s squaring this may be toooo intense to look over.

Example: If an Earth-moon person squares that Fire signed Venus spouse … the fire sign can get very annoyed, agitated, bothered, lash out in a fiery way when forced to deal with the emotional baggage of the Earth signed Moon. Maybe the Fire Venus person screams that your child support payments are constantly keeping us broke and I’m tired of dealing with this. Making a big scene packing their shit threatening to leave And creates a big deal every time a payment is collected. Or maybe there’s a Water signed Moon squared by an Air signed Venus and the Air Venus person simply checks out and doesn’t help the Water moon deal with any of the baggage within the household. The air sign deems that as being “none of their concern, or that’s YOUR problem” "Them ain't my kids ... those are YOUR kids, possibly treating the kids in COMMON different than the ones that aren't theirs. Then the Water signed moon feels neglected like “yo, we’re in a RELATIONSHIP you should help me sort this shit out!” Now, I will say that SQUARES are the more intense and the examples will be similar to as stated above. OPPOSITIONS are the “see-saw” effect it could bounce back and forth between the both of you with family drama and baggage. Lastly, that QUINCUNX is more SPASMODIC meaning shit pops up on that ass out the blue or it’s a terrible irritation like the relationship is PERFECTTT expect her annoying ass baby daddy that only comes around twice a year LOL! Synastry is soooo important, get a professional to LOOK even if you DON’T have a birth time. SYNASTRY is how you to will RELATE and CONNECT to each other while attempting to intertwine y’alls lives. Once y’all have made it OFFICIAL then whip out that COMPOSITE chart. THAT COMPOSITE chart shows you the destination of the union … what did y’all come together to accomplish EVEN if it’s a bullshit ass ride to the corner store! What mission did y’all come together to complete? I’ll end out on this. REAL LIFE EVIDENCE Me and my kid's dad was together for 6.5 yrs … My Pisces Moon at the 25th degree opposed his Venus in Virgo at the 28th degree. When we got together he told me how he had been abandoned by his mom. Was raised by his single father most of his life and his father was an awesome dad (I’m almost certain that his father is also a Cancer) up until he got strung out on drugs when he as maybe 8 or 9. Then it became him bouncing around from place to place until his dad would stop binging to come to pick him up. He eventually left home at 16 and never returned due to the dad stealing and selling his clothes and shoes and he couldn’t even have clothes to dress for school. Mind you, he came into the union with a baby mama that left him, moved, remarried, and wanted nothing to do with him and would not allow him to see his child. But he was having child support removed from his check that the woman wouldn’t even claim. Her husband is raising the child as his own. So anyway, Me being the Moon person … I was going thru a divorce. I met him in Feb/March 2012 and my divorce wasn’t final until maybe Nov 2012 due to my ex-husband being a bitch and playing around with my life. My ex-husband was still paying me spousal support which I didn’t disclose to him … but in my mind, that was none of his business but when he found out he was mad. And I also didn’t tell him that I was still married. I told him that the divorce was final. But, I had moved to another state and wasn't even seeing my husband at all at the time we were LEGALLY separated and NOT together. Which I probably shouldn’t have lied but hey, He also wasn’t up front about an additional baby mama that he had! Go figure OPPOSITION. We BOTH had secrets. But when I met him he was adamant about settling down, starting a family, he didn’t wanna play any games. He wanted kids and he wanted to raise his kids in a 2 parent home and do things the “right” way … his Virgo stellium talking! He said his goal was to meet a woman that he loved and adored and they go off to start their OWN family together. Nobody else. Boy, was he serious smh! Looking back he had always been jealous of my family bonds since the beginning. I come from a large close knit southern family. I am the oldest of 6, my sisters and brothers are my life. They are at my house most the time and my sisters live with me now since Jason has left. He hated that my family would pop up he demanded that they call before they come EVEN my mother! Don’t come over for dinner unless he is told/asked that they come 1st. Don’t be talking loud in the living room when they come to visit. Just a straight up asshole to my family. Eventhough my family was still very nice to him. My parents helped us whenever we needed anything. And my family truly embraced him eventhough all the while he’s talking shit about them to me, talking shit about how my little brothers are losers and how my mom should put them out for playing the game all day and not working. Blah, blah, blah … Saying me and my family are always in each others business and he don’t rock with that. Saying “you and your siblings are so phony, yall cuss each other out and be right back talking tomorrow.” I had to explain to him that him being an ONLY child that he didn’t understand sibling dynamics! My mother raised us to be really tight like a pack of wolves LOL (Mom’s a Leo) and she was adamant about nobody breaking that bond … yes, we cuss, fuss, and yell at each other but we still ride for each other regardless. There was no sick sadistic child molestation or abuse in my family due to my mother being such a helicopter mom (her mars in Virgo) and I am proud of that fact. All families have their dysfunction but ours is rather minimal compared to other families that I have seen! I used to always ask him …

How dare you talk about my fam and sit on your high horse when you don’t even have a family?? Haven’t seen or spoken to your grandma in years, you talk to your dad for 2 yrs, then cut him off for 2yrs, then back and forth. No cousins, No aunts and uncles, like nobody fucks with nobody just pain and sorrow in his family. But got the nerve to sit on his VIRGO ass high horse and pick my family apart! Bitch bye! His ideal situation was meeting an “orphaned” chick like himself and starting a family with her OR meeting a chick that was cool with abandoning her family and running off to be a family with him. Because he fears abandonment so severely the best defense mechanism would be to have a chick where you and her are each others ONLY anchor that way nobody would be comfortable leaving each other. Cancers are all about their “anchor people” he’s a Cancer moon …

I know that this is a long one but I had to share. The OPPOSITION was playing out with us both bringing baggage. Also, us both PERCEIVING things to be baggage … me already having a family that demanded a lot of my time, focus, and attention was baggage in his eyes. Attention that should’ve been going to him! On an emotion level, harsh aspects from Venus to Moon are people that speak two different love languages. It’s a constant song and dance of “I don’t like how you make me FEEL” … “I don’t like how you LOVE me” … “You don’t NURTURE me properly” … “Well, if you LOVED me right then I could NURTURE you right” …

“Well, when you start making me FEEL how I’m supposed to feel then I’ll NURTURE you” … Smh, this is a HARD situation … and sometimes best left alone. Unless there aren’t other things adding insult to injury. #AstrologyFahReal I know now, how important my family is to ME (Moon in Pisces and in my 1st house) that I can’t deal with a man on a serious level who’s Venus is SQUARE or OPPOSITE my Moon. Especially if he is an only child, doesn’t value family, doesn’t have a family, has abandonment issues, etc … PAY ATTENTION! Pull the synastry of all your past SERIOUS unions and take note of what you are attracting and WHY! AVOID that shit at all cost all over again. Some shit is too karmic and you can’t avoid but some shit we could’ve dodged MAJOR bullets!