3 tips on how to deal with a shy first date

Know before you go! 

Don’t go into a blind date blind. Even if you are the type of person that says “I hate talking on the phone”, get over it my friend. You can’t get to know a potential MATCH via text! A few preliminary calls will confirm that there isn’t the “awkward silence” between you two that makes you wanna yawn and ask for the check! I know your fear - you don’t want to get out all of the “good” questions before the 1st date and then run out of things to talk about on the big night. Not to worry! Keep the preliminary call questions to present day things like: How was your day? Anything eventful happen at work today? What are your plans for the evening? Any favorite shows that you will catch tonight? Etc. But the moral is keep it simple. These are questions you will ask each other to keep the convo flowing to see that you two mesh a bit. 1-3 preliminary calls should do. *Also, feel free to ask TOTAL deal breaker questions BEFORE scheduling a 1st date.* Example: If you REFUSE to date a person who is in between jobs make that clear before meeting or ask the person if they are working or their reasons for not working. 

Ask open ended questions! 

So, you have made it to the 1st date! Congrats! Now you can ask all the juicy fun questions like: How long have you been single? What are you seeking in a spouse? What type of relationship are you seeking at the moment? Get creative to keep the convo flowing! Ask about hobbies or clubs that the person may enjoy! The convo can be great and endless if you two mesh well! (Of course, you would if I matched you, LOL) No matter what DON’T talk SEX on the 1st date! No “what’s your fav position”, No “when was the last time you had sex”, NO “where’s your hot spot”! That kinda chat is so unnecessary on the 1st date! It takes the attention off getting to know each other to simply wanting to FUCK each other. And let’s face it, most time fucking too soon creates a blank fog, distortion, and shaky foundation that isn’t needed. 

Make them comfortable! 

If you notice that your date is being a bit quiet or acting shy don’t call them out on it. If you are into them, make them feel as comfortable as possible. Do this by NOT invading their personal space, DON’T get too touchy feely too soon. Allow touching and kissing to naturally progress. Ask your date lots of questions about themselves. Of course, on 1st dates it’s ideal to pass the imaginary mic back and forth to each other. But if you are dealing with a shy date it may flow better to simply give them the floor for 10-15 mins until they warm up a bit. Once they see that you are interested in who they are as a person, they will begin to warm up! Then you will be able to go back and forth again! 

If you enjoyed this read please share it w/ a friend and try these tips out on your next date and let me know how they worked out for you! Hello@MMSM.com